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Tuesday, December 7 • 12:00am - 1:30am
From scarcity to abundance, a relationship mindset

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Learn to create and maintain conscious, connected and autonomous relationships, respecting yours and your partners’ boundaries and embracing a mindset of abundance in your connections.


Being raised on a diet of monogamous romantic fantasies, most people develop a mythological sense of what healthy relationships look like. Once we recognise love as separate from ‘meeting needs’, we are on our path to a better way of loving ourselves and others.

We can design our relationships in any way that makes sense to us and our partners. If what society says we should be doing feels unnatural, then do it differently. Nothing is ‘default’ or ‘natural’, except what feels natural to us. When there is an internal struggle, it is often because we inherit a set of values and expectations from our community, family and tribe that are at odds with what we feel inside.

We have inherited a scarcity focused culture that values dominance, competitiveness, capitalism, accumulation of wealth and resources. No matter the political ideology, scarcity is at the root of so many problems that humanity must tackle if we are to thrive as a species. The compounded tragedy is that we also inherited fixed ways of thinking and analysing these issues that limit us, as they are borne of the same value system.

How we view relationships and our connection with others cannot be separated from the reality of the system in which we exist. When we think of finding a mate, our rational mind creates expectations to help us survive within this framework. We look for someone that ticks the boxes so we can feel safer, have an ally and future-proof our life.

The abundant mindset is possible to learn, practice and implement with the right support and direction. It starts with UNLEARNING our toxic cultural norms and using our ABSTRACT minds to create a new reality. Once we discover that we are capable of self-love, self-confidence and self-regulation, we begin to meet more of our needs by ourselves.

This interactive talk will help put you on the path towards an open-hearted approach to love and relationships.


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Roy Graff

I offer coaching and mentoring to individuals, couples and polycules. I can help with relationship issues, honesty and authenticity in relating, life transformation and major life crises.My support is offered as a mentor, consultant and coach. I use a variety of methodologies, along... Read More →

Tuesday December 7, 2021 12:00am - 1:30am PST
Hall 2